A realists guide to preparing for chemo - My Top 10 Tips
When you get the diagnosis that you have the ''C''' word, or as I like to call it - Evil Edna, it can be life shattering to say the least, for both you and your loved ones. You immediately start to think about the worst possible outcomes, all the distressing scenarios of what might happen to you suddenly begin to spiral out of control in your mind, and you turn to 'Doctor Google' and haunting images begin to take over your life. Planning what flowers I was going to have at my funeral seemed like the logical thing to do.
It warms my heart to hear all these lovely complements, but getting to this point wasn't the easiest and maintaining it isn't any easier. The truth is, I have no choice but to be positive. Stay positive and keep living my life. I'm 31 for crying out loud. I could easily sit at home, and as the Grinch likes to put it, 'wallow in self pity' but why? What will that be achieving? What value would that be adding to my life and, the people I care about the most ? None.
What did I do? Well to be fair the people that knew about the initial stages during biopsy etc may have received that phone call...so...oops sorry about that ...I was wallowing in self pity is my only excuse.
So, I created a Whats App group for my nearest and dearest and told them that way. I figured it was easier to bulk message it rather than have to repeat the same thing a billion times over.
No but on a serious note, taking people with me on different shopping days helped us all so much. I didn't rush to buy everything at once. I saved certain purchases such as wigs to go with different friends. Believe me, you have more love around you then you know. Health issues are sometimes a sick blessing in disguise, the real friends step up and your relationships with them grow a whole heap stronger. Love you guys.
Dealing with an illness is similar to a bereavement, that's the only thing I can compare it to. Going back to work when a loved one passes away keeps your mind distracted for a few hours. Treat this as you would a loss. Before starting treatment, the perfect time to find out what else you love doing or discovering hidden talents you may have is now. Take advantage of the time you have off from work and do something you enjoy. It is also therapeutic! I have met so many women who started their dream jobs because of the time they had off work.
Sadly not all our friends will understand so speaking to complete strangers is a great way of chewing someones ear off who understands, it also makes you realise that you are not alone and actually, your type is not as bad as some other peoples. And besides, making new friends along the way can only be deemed a good thing.
Prior to the shedding, I kept imagining what I would look like with no hair. I started wearing scarves to get used to the idea. I slowly began to detach from my hair and started planning a party!
Instead of visiting a hairdresser and bidding my split ends an emotional farewell, I flipped the script on evil Edna and had a BBQ instead. Yes that's right, I invited my friends over and had a shaving party. A few of my close friends decided to brave the shave with me, so it turned out to be a nicer experience then some others I've seen flying around on the net. We did all look like the cast of American History X by the end of the night though...